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How to Nourish the Heart of your Business

How to Nourish the Heart of your Business

11-11-11 last week was a special day for me. Yes, in the morning I was part of a 11.11am group meditation on One Tree Hill in some way out part of South East London I’d never been to before and met some wonderful new friends. Yes, we drove way out West with our children in the afternoon to introduce them to the massive ancient stones at Avebury, (one of my favourite spots on the planet) and light our way with the Martinmas lanterns they’d made at school. It was truly magical.

But also, I did something very special at 11.11pm! I sent out the first Postcard from the Edge to the 6 lovely people who’d signed up over the last few weeks with nothing but a little ad sitting in the sidebar here on the site. The reason that’s so special to me is partly because I envisioned these cards over three years ago, so it seems they’ve been a long, long time coming… and finally they are starting to go out there – it feels so good for that to be so. If you’d like to try them yourself, just put your email address in the sidebar now.

The other reason is that the first Postcard of the 52 card series is the Ace of Hearts, which is my ‘follow your bliss’ suit and the coaching exercise I chose for this particular Ace is a variation of one of my favourites, one that I first encountered with Aina Egeberg (one of my NLP/transformational coaching trainers when I was training to be a coach) in her fab ‘Taming Your Dragons’ workshop.

It’s about the stories we carry within us, often ones we heard as children, the ones that resonate deeply with us and that can work like signposts or even a comprehensive map and really help us know ourselves as we venture on.

When Aina asked me the simple question:

“what was your favourite story as a child?”

the first story that popped into my head was ‘Alice in Wonderland’. I’d loved it but never really understood it. When we explored around this story, it turned out that the plot, the characters and the moral were all of deep significance to me, and since becoming aware of them, they’ve really helped me recognize some patterns in my attitudes and behaviours that I otherwise would have missed.

So, to take my own story as an example, the basic plot is that:

  • Once Upon a Time, Alice, drawn by her own inquisitive nature, falls down the rabbit hole, away from the world she knows and lands in wonderland – a world she doesn’t understand – a world where the people are different and the rules are different.
  • Suddenly, she just doesn’t fit in, so she tries to change herself – growing smaller, then taller. She tries being polite, she tries being helpful, she tries being rude, but she still can’t make head or tail of how it all works and continues to get into trouble everywhere she goes, ultimately with the Queen of Hearts crying “off with her head!”.
  • And at last, she gives up trying to please everyone, as she simply can’t and decides just to be herself. In doing so, she regains her path and finds her way back home, herself intact, but wiser and somehow more ready for her life ahead.

The parallels with my own life are uncanny – I’ve chosen to live in many different countries and to try lots of different fields throughout my working life. The rules are always changing and I’ve become a little addicted to the buzz of trying to fathom them. I’ve tried to fit in – from my first degree course as a film student, to the fast-paced world of tv advertising, from a small town on the border of Texas, to Mexico City – one of the biggest and most polluted cities in the world, from the ups and downs of corporate politics to a ‘peaceful’ (not) life in wellies in the the middle of nowhere but in a foreign language…

Eventually, I have realised, although I knew this deep down all the time, that I just have to be myself wherever I go and I’ll be fine. The lesson I really need to learn is to stop trying to please (or be liked by) everyone all the time.

So, I can learn a thing or two from Alice – as she has the spirit to upset the status quo once in a while – for the better – and challenge the people around her, no matter what their status. She learns to think quickly for herself, and voice her own opinion, rather than just accept how things are done. And she knew when to quit something that wasn’t working and move on, rather than stay and try to fix it.

This exercise goes deep, beyond what I was consciously aware of. It’s helped me reframe some of my own habits and patterns of behaviour. The images conjured by remembering the story help me visualise other ways to play a situation or tackle the next challenge (how would Alice do this?).

All this richness feeds into the way I grow and develop my business, and that’s why I put this exercise in month one of the Postcards from the Edge seriesthe first chakra – which is all about establishing strong foundations in all four suits – Hearts, Clubs, Diamonds and Spades.

What about you? What favourite story springs to mind? What will you do differently?

Please share your stories by scrolling down, I’d love to hear your insights…



  1. If you make your relationship with your Inner Being your top priority, and you deliberately choose thoughts that allow your alignment, you will consistently offer the greatest advantage to the others with whom you interact. Only when you are aligned with your Source do you have anything to offer another.

    If your behavior is influenced by your desire to keep another person happy, you will lose your Connection to your Source. And it is not possible for you to be happy unless you are in alignment with your Source. Without that alignment, you have nothing to offer another.

    A daily meditation process will help you to consistently release resistance and to come into alignment with the power and clarity and love that is really who-you-are—and then anyone who you hold as your object of attention will benefit. Rather than attempting the impossible task of trying to behave in ways that please others, show them the ease of finding your consistent alignment. You will always find happiness inside your Vortex. And the happiness that they are seeking is inside their Vortex. – Abe

  2. lovely Katie Alder in Tokyo shares her story about doing this exercise:

    Dear Michelle,
    Thank you for your post card series no 1!!!!
    My favorite book was Mrs. Piggle Wiggle—actually it is a series!
    love Mrs. Piggle Wiggle!!!

    The Piggle Wiggle Books are about children with bad habits—the distraught parents go to Mrs. Piggle Wiggle as a last resort. Mrs. Piggle Wiggle has magic potions and animals that provide the remedies.
    –child has a bad habit
    –parents on the edge
    –Mrs P.W. called in
    –Mrs. P.W. works her magic
    –Child cured
    –Parents happy!!!
    I love the very funny way that the children are reformed!!!
    AND—I am a bad habit child—I want a Mrs. Piggle Wiggle in my life

    I am like Mrs Piggle Wiggle in that I support and encourage people to live
    their dreams and to be positive. Mrs. Piggle Wiggle only sees the best—everyone
    is a diamond!!!! I am working on this skill!!!

    My story:

    Katie Adler leaves big messes wherever she goes. Order and organization and tidiness are not found in her vocabulary. She cares not, because she is always off to this activity or that activity. Her friends and family hate to visit and Mrs. Piggle Wiggle is called in to help! Katie is “accidentally locked in her house with Tiggles– a big mouse that Mrs. Piggle Wiggle brought with her when she came for tea. Tiggles loves Katie’s messes. He chooses a pile and burrows in and chomps and chews and makes himself quite at home. Katie finds this quite intolerable and tries unsuccessfully to open the locked door to ask him to leave. She resorts to waiting for Tiggles to come out to eat and, when he is not looking, cleans the mess lickety split. This doesn’t bother Tiggles because he just moves to the next mess. Well, Katie finally gets busy and cleans and organizes her house so that Tiggles has nowhere left to park. This is just fine with Tiggles, he heads for the door and it opens right up; he smiles and he says, “Don’t worry about me! I have plenty of places where I will be comfortable and I can always return back here if you should have a place for me! I will know immediately for once I have visited a place it is on my radar!!!” From that day on, Katie had the orderliest, tidiest, most organizedest, house on the block!!!

    My answer to the do three things differently challenge:
    Breakfast of raw food!!!
    Eye makeup!!!
    Exercise to Spanish music!!

    I have to tell you—I did this on Sunday and it is Friday and revisiting Mrs Piggle Wiggle and my bad habit has been delightful—ouch!!! And, the the three things differently challenge–just those three changes in my life— are making a huge difference—more fun and committing to a shake-up of my routine has made me conscious of how I do other things!!!

    Thank you so much!!

    Katie Adler

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